Confidence is one of many states available to us. State control and emotional well being techniques are subjects that I have taken a great interest in over the last 25 years. It has to be one of the most important factors in human life. That is why I became a Master Practitioner and trainer in NLP.
I specialise in one to one sessions for building confidence, positivity and other positive states as well as general state management. For a private consultation at my practice in Muswell Hill, North London, please call me on the numbers provided on the contact page.
What is confidence exactly?
Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain, either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct, or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective given the circumstances. Confidence can be described as a subjective, emotional state of mind, but is also represented statistically as a confidence level within which one may be certain that a hypothesis will either be rejected or deemed plausible. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself when considering a capability. Overconfidence is having unmerited confidence--believing something or someone is capable when they are not. Scientifically, a situation can only be judged after the aim has been achieved or not. Confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it, and those with it may succeed because they have it, rather than because of an innate ability.
So lets just think about that for a moment. Those without confidence may struggle even though they have ability, where as those who have confidence may do well in spite of having less ability. That’s the amazing power of confidence.
So it is well worth improving, working on and having control of.
Have you ever seen an athlete focusing their mind before they make an attempt at something? They take to time to put themselves in an optimum state, perhaps visualising themselves achieving their goal to tremendous applause and acclaim. They feel the feelings of being a winner before they even make their attempt.
Confidence then, is a state. Its a feeling. Although at first it may seem hard to have control over our feelings or state, when we understand that our feelings are triggered by thoughts then we can begin to understand that if we choose our thoughts and what we think about carefully then this will have a huge effect on the way that we feel and the level of our confidence.
So how do we go about feeling more confident? How do we start to choose our thoughts so that we begin to feel more confident now?
Well first, lets look at some of the strategies that we know work well for feeling really pants and having very low confidence levels.
Over dramatise. The journey to work should be a “Complete nightmare” and not something nearer the truth, that the train was delayed and rather busy that morning. Don’t make light of situations or look for the funny side of life because that will only lead to humorous and more positive thoughts which will never do if we are trying to keep our confidence low.
Everything should be a drama.
Over generalise. These are the thoughts that because things did not work out in one circumstance that things will never work out in all similar circumstances. Because I fluffed my lines at one public speech means that I will always be rubbish at all public speaking situations. If you start thinking that just because you struggled in one instance actually that means that you can learn from the situation, grow and then move on to do better next time, your confidence may start to build and this will not help us in our quest to feel pants.
Black and White thinking. Make sure that you think in very black and white terms. If a situation is not absolutely perfect in every way for us then it’s completely hopeless. If we do not perform every task perfectly regardless of the circumstances. then we are useless. Thinking in more realistic shades of grey can be dangerous if we want to feel horribly pants. Digging the positive out of every situation no matter how hard it may be to find and recognizing that every situation has an infinite number of possible perspectives, is lethal to feeling low in confidence.
Eternal thinking. This is a great one for feeling rubbish. You convince yourself that things can never change or improve. I will never get a girlfriend. I will always feel low. I will never be able to have a high income. I could never be self employed. Brilliant for feeling really low. Any thoughts along the lines of “Just because a situation is one way now does not mean that it can’t be changed” are only going to give us feelings of hope and positivity and that will never do. How are we ever going to keep our confidence levels at rock bottom if we start thinking that anything is possible? And if we really start to know on a deep and emotional level that when a human being is determined and committed then truly amazing changes can take place then higher levels of confidence just seems to spring to the front of our minds. And we can’t have that, can we?
Discounting the positive. This takes a bit of practice but once you have it down it is probably the most effective way of having thoughts that are guaranteed to lead to feelings of low confidence. All you have to do is to discount anything that went well and focus in on all the things that went wrong and then run them over and over in your mind. Think about that negative comment that somebody made to you, no matter how long ago and repeat it to yourself over and over. And preferably in a loud or threatening voice. Don’t spend time thinking about what went well or smoothly. Don’t think about all the things that you did which were great. Because focusing on all the positive things gives you an immediate lift which will lead to more positive thoughts which will ultimately positively affect the way we feel and our level of confidence. And that’s not what we want to do just yet, is it?
Exaggerating and imagining worst case scenario’s. Just like the athlete who visualises themselves doing fantastically well before they make an attempt, in order to have thoughts that lead to feelings of low confidence we need to imagine all the things that could go wrong. Even better, if we can take the risks or difficulties in a situation and then exaggerate them then this will help loads in our objective of being very good at feeling rubbish.
Does any of this feel familiar? Have you ever seen these behavioural patterns in yourself or other people? Have you heard people saying some of the things above?
So what can we do to improve the way that our confidence affects our behaviour and our results? Well we can exercise!
Exercise 1
The more you open up to this exercise and engage with it fully, the better it will work for you. The more times that you do this, the stronger the effect will be. This is just like our athlete using visualisation to enhance performance.
Take a few moments to do this exercise now and notice the changes that take place in the way that you feel.
You can do this exercise sitting down or standing up. You might want to close your eyes unless you feel happier with them open.
Search your memory banks and find a memory of a time when you felt wonderfully confident now. You might be able to think of something immediately or it may take a few moments to remember a really good example of when you felt really very confident. Either way is fine.
Remember that time and really focus on it completely. Imagine that you are there right now, seeing that situation through your own eyes, just as you did then. See exactly what you saw when you felt really confident. See the situation in great detail. Make the colours bright and the contrast sharp. Are there other people there? What do their faces look like? Or may be you on your own,if so what are your surroundings like? What else can you see?
Still focusing on this memory of you feeling wonderfully confident, what sounds can you hear? hear them right now, just as you did then. Can you hear the positive comments of others who were around you at that time? What other sounds are associated with this memory? If there are sounds, remember them in detail and make those sounds rich and full and wonderful to listen to. What are you saying to yourself at this time? What are you telling yourself? Perhaps there is little sound associated with this memory, that’s fine too. May be its the gentle rushing of the wind. Just notice what sounds are there and experience them now.
Thinking about this time when you feel supremely confident and being there again now, just what is going on in your body? Notice the sensations taking place inside. How do you feel? How does your tummy feel? Are you warm or cool? Notice all of the feelings. Notice that feeling of confidence welling up inside of you, getting stronger and stronger. Where is that feeling located in your body? In you tummy? Your chest? Your head? Where can you feel it? Notice it now. If you could give this feeling a colour, what colour would it be?
Are there any smells associated with this experience? any tastes? What were they like?
Still focusing on this memory of you feeling wonderfully confident, what sounds can you hear? hear them right now, just as you did then. Can you hear the positive comments of others who were around you at that time? What other sounds are associated with this memory? If there are sounds, remember them in detail and make those sounds rich and full and wonderful to listen to. What are you saying to yourself at this time? What are you telling yourself? Perhaps there is little sound associated with this memory, that’s fine too. May be its the gentle rushing of the wind. Just notice what sounds are there and experience them now.
Thinking about this time when you feel supremely confident and being there again now, just what is going on in your body? Notice the sensations taking place inside. How do you feel? How does your tummy feel? Are you warm or cool? Notice all of the feelings. Notice that feeling of confidence welling up inside of you, getting stronger and stronger. Where is that feeling located in your body? In you tummy? Your chest? Your head? Where can you feel it? Notice it now. If you could give this feeling a colour, what colour would it be?
Are there any smells associated with this experience? any tastes? What were they like?
As you experience all these thoughts right now, seeing what you saw, hearing what your heard and feeling what you felt at that time when you were supremely confident and as that experience builds in intensity I want you to ball up your right hand into a fist for a few seconds as you re-experience those wonderful and intense feelings again. Balling up your hand into a fist makes a neurological connection between these feelings and a physical stimulus.
If you have truly never experienced any feelings of confidence of your own then I want you to pick a person, fictional or otherwise who you perceive as being full of confidence. I want you to imagine them standing about a foot in front of you, with their backs to you and notice that they are brimming over with confidence. Now I want you to take a step forward and enter their body and become that person. Then go through the exercise above as described.
Now, take some time to come back to the present moment. Wow, when you fully engage in this exercise its a very powerful technique. What is your experience now? What has changed?
Think about those athletes getting themselves in the “zone” before they break world records. The exercise described above is exactly the technique that they are using.
Now. Ball up your right hand into a fist and notice how those feelings of confidence return to you just as they did a moment ago. From now on, any time you want to access these feelings of confidence again, ball up your right hand into a fist and allow the memory of this exercise and the feelings that come with it to flow through you. The more you do this exercise the stronger the effect will be.
As you experience all these thoughts right now, seeing what you saw, hearing what your heard and feeling what you felt at that time when you were supremely confident and as that experience builds in intensity I want you to ball up your right hand into a fist for a few seconds as you re-experience those wonderful and intense feelings again. Balling up your hand into a fist makes a neurological connection between these feelings and a physical stimulus.
If you have truly never experienced any feelings of confidence of your own then I want you to pick a person, fictional or otherwise who you perceive as being full of confidence. I want you to imagine them standing about a foot in front of you, with their backs to you and notice that they are brimming over with confidence. Now I want you to take a step forward and enter their body and become that person. Then go through the exercise above as described.
Now, take some time to come back to the present moment. Wow, when you fully engage in this exercise its a very powerful technique. What is your experience now? What has changed?
Think about those athletes getting themselves in the “zone” before they break world records. The exercise described above is exactly the technique that they are using.
Now. Ball up your right hand into a fist and notice how those feelings of confidence return to you just as they did a moment ago. From now on, any time you want to access these feelings of confidence again, ball up your right hand into a fist and allow the memory of this exercise and the feelings that come with it to flow through you. The more you do this exercise the stronger the effect will be.
Strategies for feeling high levels of confidence
Now we understand that our thoughts lead to feelings, which in turn lead to states, we can appreciate that what we think about has a profound effect on our well being. We can not afford the luxury of negative thinking for very long. Instead we need to look for the benefits and positive aspects of all of the situations which we are lucky enough to find ourselves in.
Here are some healthy thinking choices.
Consider how lucky you are. Take some time every day to remember how lucky you are. Look at all the things in your life, in the past and the present which you are grateful for. Give thanks up to the universe (or what ever power you believe in) for every single good thing that has ever happened to you. Think about how unique you are and how your special blend of abilities and talents can not be found in any other person on the whole planet of six billion people. Think about how lucky you will be in the future. Be grateful for what you have. And not just the big things, be grateful for the little things too like seeing the beauty of a single raindrop on a leaf. Look around for things to be grateful about.
Think in shades of colour. Remember that your perspective of a situation is just that- your perspective. Its not the situation itself, just your take on things. That does not mean that your take on things is not valid because it may have lots of validity for you. Remember that every situation has infinite possible ways of being interpreted and is not black and white. Once you take this on at a deep level then the world opens up and becomes rich in choices for you with many more possibilities being available.
Focus on what you want So many people, when you ask them what they want they tell you a huge list of stuff that they don’t want. Getting them to tell you what they DO want is like drawing blood from a stone. Think about what you want and focus in on that. Keep it in your mind lots.
Focus on the positive. This is incredibly powerful. Look for and find the positive in every situation and focus on it. When something goes well, take that memory and run it in your mind lots of times. When something goes not so well, consider what you have learned from this situation and what you can take from it in order to grow. There is always some positive in every situation, become the detective who hunts for it and finds it and uses it to grow.
Imagine best case scenarios If you are going to imagine things that have not yet happened, imagine things going incredibly well! Imagine the best case scenario that you can. Imagine yourself doing fantastically well. The more you develop your imagination in this way the more your brain will steer you in the direction that you have spent your time thinking about.
Create a compelling future What are your ambitions? What is your plan to achieve them? Where will you be in a year from now or five years? If you are not sure about the answers to these questions, lets get going! Plan a fantastic future, set some goals and a strategy to achieve them. It does not matter if they are perfect or not, because you can update and adjust them as you go! Having goals to aim for gives you something positive to aim for and makes life compelling and exciting.
Be funny and have fun In my opinion, fun is grossly under rated and neglected in adults. When we were kids is was a full time occupation. We would not be interested in anything if it was not fun. As adults we can forget the importance of having fun. How do you have fun? Make sure that you have a fun outlet in your life because having fun in life is a motivational tool that works like no other. Seeing the funny side of situations can keep us from taking ourselves too seriously. Laughing releases tension and built up stress. Conspire to be in situations where you laugh lots. Hang around funny people. Sharpen your wit.
Ask for and accept help. You would probably be happy to help other people if they asked you for help and would not think less of them for it. So ask for help when you need it and accept that help and allow yourself to feel good that you are wise enough to seek assistance when you need to.
I specialise in one to one sessions for building confidence, positivity and other positive states as well as general state management. For a private consultation please call me on the numbers provided on the contact page.
I specialise in one to one sessions for building confidence, positivity and other positive states as well as general state management. For a private consultation at my practice in Muswell Hill, North London, please call me on the numbers provided on the contact page.
What is confidence exactly?
Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain, either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct, or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective given the circumstances. Confidence can be described as a subjective, emotional state of mind, but is also represented statistically as a confidence level within which one may be certain that a hypothesis will either be rejected or deemed plausible. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself when considering a capability. Overconfidence is having unmerited confidence--believing something or someone is capable when they are not. Scientifically, a situation can only be judged after the aim has been achieved or not. Confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it, and those with it may succeed because they have it, rather than because of an innate ability.
So lets just think about that for a moment. Those without confidence may struggle even though they have ability, where as those who have confidence may do well in spite of having less ability. That’s the amazing power of confidence.
So it is well worth improving, working on and having control of.
Have you ever seen an athlete focusing their mind before they make an attempt at something? They take to time to put themselves in an optimum state, perhaps visualising themselves achieving their goal to tremendous applause and acclaim. They feel the feelings of being a winner before they even make their attempt.
Confidence then, is a state. Its a feeling. Although at first it may seem hard to have control over our feelings or state, when we understand that our feelings are triggered by thoughts then we can begin to understand that if we choose our thoughts and what we think about carefully then this will have a huge effect on the way that we feel and the level of our confidence.
So how do we go about feeling more confident? How do we start to choose our thoughts so that we begin to feel more confident now?
Well first, lets look at some of the strategies that we know work well for feeling really pants and having very low confidence levels.
Over dramatise. The journey to work should be a “Complete nightmare” and not something nearer the truth, that the train was delayed and rather busy that morning. Don’t make light of situations or look for the funny side of life because that will only lead to humorous and more positive thoughts which will never do if we are trying to keep our confidence low.
Everything should be a drama.
Over generalise. These are the thoughts that because things did not work out in one circumstance that things will never work out in all similar circumstances. Because I fluffed my lines at one public speech means that I will always be rubbish at all public speaking situations. If you start thinking that just because you struggled in one instance actually that means that you can learn from the situation, grow and then move on to do better next time, your confidence may start to build and this will not help us in our quest to feel pants.
Black and White thinking. Make sure that you think in very black and white terms. If a situation is not absolutely perfect in every way for us then it’s completely hopeless. If we do not perform every task perfectly regardless of the circumstances. then we are useless. Thinking in more realistic shades of grey can be dangerous if we want to feel horribly pants. Digging the positive out of every situation no matter how hard it may be to find and recognizing that every situation has an infinite number of possible perspectives, is lethal to feeling low in confidence.
Eternal thinking. This is a great one for feeling rubbish. You convince yourself that things can never change or improve. I will never get a girlfriend. I will always feel low. I will never be able to have a high income. I could never be self employed. Brilliant for feeling really low. Any thoughts along the lines of “Just because a situation is one way now does not mean that it can’t be changed” are only going to give us feelings of hope and positivity and that will never do. How are we ever going to keep our confidence levels at rock bottom if we start thinking that anything is possible? And if we really start to know on a deep and emotional level that when a human being is determined and committed then truly amazing changes can take place then higher levels of confidence just seems to spring to the front of our minds. And we can’t have that, can we?
Discounting the positive. This takes a bit of practice but once you have it down it is probably the most effective way of having thoughts that are guaranteed to lead to feelings of low confidence. All you have to do is to discount anything that went well and focus in on all the things that went wrong and then run them over and over in your mind. Think about that negative comment that somebody made to you, no matter how long ago and repeat it to yourself over and over. And preferably in a loud or threatening voice. Don’t spend time thinking about what went well or smoothly. Don’t think about all the things that you did which were great. Because focusing on all the positive things gives you an immediate lift which will lead to more positive thoughts which will ultimately positively affect the way we feel and our level of confidence. And that’s not what we want to do just yet, is it?
Exaggerating and imagining worst case scenario’s. Just like the athlete who visualises themselves doing fantastically well before they make an attempt, in order to have thoughts that lead to feelings of low confidence we need to imagine all the things that could go wrong. Even better, if we can take the risks or difficulties in a situation and then exaggerate them then this will help loads in our objective of being very good at feeling rubbish.
Does any of this feel familiar? Have you ever seen these behavioural patterns in yourself or other people? Have you heard people saying some of the things above?
So what can we do to improve the way that our confidence affects our behaviour and our results? Well we can exercise!
Exercise 1
The more you open up to this exercise and engage with it fully, the better it will work for you. The more times that you do this, the stronger the effect will be. This is just like our athlete using visualisation to enhance performance.
Take a few moments to do this exercise now and notice the changes that take place in the way that you feel.
You can do this exercise sitting down or standing up. You might want to close your eyes unless you feel happier with them open.
Search your memory banks and find a memory of a time when you felt wonderfully confident now. You might be able to think of something immediately or it may take a few moments to remember a really good example of when you felt really very confident. Either way is fine.
Remember that time and really focus on it completely. Imagine that you are there right now, seeing that situation through your own eyes, just as you did then. See exactly what you saw when you felt really confident. See the situation in great detail. Make the colours bright and the contrast sharp. Are there other people there? What do their faces look like? Or may be you on your own,if so what are your surroundings like? What else can you see?
Still focusing on this memory of you feeling wonderfully confident, what sounds can you hear? hear them right now, just as you did then. Can you hear the positive comments of others who were around you at that time? What other sounds are associated with this memory? If there are sounds, remember them in detail and make those sounds rich and full and wonderful to listen to. What are you saying to yourself at this time? What are you telling yourself? Perhaps there is little sound associated with this memory, that’s fine too. May be its the gentle rushing of the wind. Just notice what sounds are there and experience them now.
Thinking about this time when you feel supremely confident and being there again now, just what is going on in your body? Notice the sensations taking place inside. How do you feel? How does your tummy feel? Are you warm or cool? Notice all of the feelings. Notice that feeling of confidence welling up inside of you, getting stronger and stronger. Where is that feeling located in your body? In you tummy? Your chest? Your head? Where can you feel it? Notice it now. If you could give this feeling a colour, what colour would it be?
Are there any smells associated with this experience? any tastes? What were they like?
Still focusing on this memory of you feeling wonderfully confident, what sounds can you hear? hear them right now, just as you did then. Can you hear the positive comments of others who were around you at that time? What other sounds are associated with this memory? If there are sounds, remember them in detail and make those sounds rich and full and wonderful to listen to. What are you saying to yourself at this time? What are you telling yourself? Perhaps there is little sound associated with this memory, that’s fine too. May be its the gentle rushing of the wind. Just notice what sounds are there and experience them now.
Thinking about this time when you feel supremely confident and being there again now, just what is going on in your body? Notice the sensations taking place inside. How do you feel? How does your tummy feel? Are you warm or cool? Notice all of the feelings. Notice that feeling of confidence welling up inside of you, getting stronger and stronger. Where is that feeling located in your body? In you tummy? Your chest? Your head? Where can you feel it? Notice it now. If you could give this feeling a colour, what colour would it be?
Are there any smells associated with this experience? any tastes? What were they like?
As you experience all these thoughts right now, seeing what you saw, hearing what your heard and feeling what you felt at that time when you were supremely confident and as that experience builds in intensity I want you to ball up your right hand into a fist for a few seconds as you re-experience those wonderful and intense feelings again. Balling up your hand into a fist makes a neurological connection between these feelings and a physical stimulus.
If you have truly never experienced any feelings of confidence of your own then I want you to pick a person, fictional or otherwise who you perceive as being full of confidence. I want you to imagine them standing about a foot in front of you, with their backs to you and notice that they are brimming over with confidence. Now I want you to take a step forward and enter their body and become that person. Then go through the exercise above as described.
Now, take some time to come back to the present moment. Wow, when you fully engage in this exercise its a very powerful technique. What is your experience now? What has changed?
Think about those athletes getting themselves in the “zone” before they break world records. The exercise described above is exactly the technique that they are using.
Now. Ball up your right hand into a fist and notice how those feelings of confidence return to you just as they did a moment ago. From now on, any time you want to access these feelings of confidence again, ball up your right hand into a fist and allow the memory of this exercise and the feelings that come with it to flow through you. The more you do this exercise the stronger the effect will be.
As you experience all these thoughts right now, seeing what you saw, hearing what your heard and feeling what you felt at that time when you were supremely confident and as that experience builds in intensity I want you to ball up your right hand into a fist for a few seconds as you re-experience those wonderful and intense feelings again. Balling up your hand into a fist makes a neurological connection between these feelings and a physical stimulus.
If you have truly never experienced any feelings of confidence of your own then I want you to pick a person, fictional or otherwise who you perceive as being full of confidence. I want you to imagine them standing about a foot in front of you, with their backs to you and notice that they are brimming over with confidence. Now I want you to take a step forward and enter their body and become that person. Then go through the exercise above as described.
Now, take some time to come back to the present moment. Wow, when you fully engage in this exercise its a very powerful technique. What is your experience now? What has changed?
Think about those athletes getting themselves in the “zone” before they break world records. The exercise described above is exactly the technique that they are using.
Now. Ball up your right hand into a fist and notice how those feelings of confidence return to you just as they did a moment ago. From now on, any time you want to access these feelings of confidence again, ball up your right hand into a fist and allow the memory of this exercise and the feelings that come with it to flow through you. The more you do this exercise the stronger the effect will be.
Strategies for feeling high levels of confidence
Now we understand that our thoughts lead to feelings, which in turn lead to states, we can appreciate that what we think about has a profound effect on our well being. We can not afford the luxury of negative thinking for very long. Instead we need to look for the benefits and positive aspects of all of the situations which we are lucky enough to find ourselves in.
Here are some healthy thinking choices.
Consider how lucky you are. Take some time every day to remember how lucky you are. Look at all the things in your life, in the past and the present which you are grateful for. Give thanks up to the universe (or what ever power you believe in) for every single good thing that has ever happened to you. Think about how unique you are and how your special blend of abilities and talents can not be found in any other person on the whole planet of six billion people. Think about how lucky you will be in the future. Be grateful for what you have. And not just the big things, be grateful for the little things too like seeing the beauty of a single raindrop on a leaf. Look around for things to be grateful about.
Think in shades of colour. Remember that your perspective of a situation is just that- your perspective. Its not the situation itself, just your take on things. That does not mean that your take on things is not valid because it may have lots of validity for you. Remember that every situation has infinite possible ways of being interpreted and is not black and white. Once you take this on at a deep level then the world opens up and becomes rich in choices for you with many more possibilities being available.
Focus on what you want So many people, when you ask them what they want they tell you a huge list of stuff that they don’t want. Getting them to tell you what they DO want is like drawing blood from a stone. Think about what you want and focus in on that. Keep it in your mind lots.
Focus on the positive. This is incredibly powerful. Look for and find the positive in every situation and focus on it. When something goes well, take that memory and run it in your mind lots of times. When something goes not so well, consider what you have learned from this situation and what you can take from it in order to grow. There is always some positive in every situation, become the detective who hunts for it and finds it and uses it to grow.
Imagine best case scenarios If you are going to imagine things that have not yet happened, imagine things going incredibly well! Imagine the best case scenario that you can. Imagine yourself doing fantastically well. The more you develop your imagination in this way the more your brain will steer you in the direction that you have spent your time thinking about.
Create a compelling future What are your ambitions? What is your plan to achieve them? Where will you be in a year from now or five years? If you are not sure about the answers to these questions, lets get going! Plan a fantastic future, set some goals and a strategy to achieve them. It does not matter if they are perfect or not, because you can update and adjust them as you go! Having goals to aim for gives you something positive to aim for and makes life compelling and exciting.
Be funny and have fun In my opinion, fun is grossly under rated and neglected in adults. When we were kids is was a full time occupation. We would not be interested in anything if it was not fun. As adults we can forget the importance of having fun. How do you have fun? Make sure that you have a fun outlet in your life because having fun in life is a motivational tool that works like no other. Seeing the funny side of situations can keep us from taking ourselves too seriously. Laughing releases tension and built up stress. Conspire to be in situations where you laugh lots. Hang around funny people. Sharpen your wit.
Ask for and accept help. You would probably be happy to help other people if they asked you for help and would not think less of them for it. So ask for help when you need it and accept that help and allow yourself to feel good that you are wise enough to seek assistance when you need to.
I specialise in one to one sessions for building confidence, positivity and other positive states as well as general state management. For a private consultation please call me on the numbers provided on the contact page.
